In this tribe of 150 people, the value of a woman is perceived and dependent upon the connections that they make, their network, and the placement of the man they desire within the tribe. Even in today’s society, most women are attracted to men who have an athletic build. This is because this stature demonstrates strength and the ability to lead and protect.  Women really are looking to be affiliated with people who are of high value because that’s how they judge their character. Now in modern society,  that comes down to a bunch of different things. In the suburbs, that could mean I need to have a beautiful house. I need to take my kids to the right school so I could be affiliated with those who also have a nice house and also go to nice schools and stuff like that.

The problem that many couples in the west face is that many times to get that, she’s going to ask the man to do these projects around the house, basically to work for her, and that sets up a dynamic in the relationship that can be harmful because once the man starts to work for her, he’s no longer leading her. She gets to critique his work and a lot of times the nagging and annoying behavior start to come in. “How come you don’t take out the trash?” is a common sign that tells the shift in dynamics. In the tribal situation, the gender roles are clearly defined and as such there is no space for criticism outside of the gender and family roles are upheld. In other words, if the woman of today wishes to get certain tasks completed within the home, she would hire someone to help her, instead of asking her partner.

The Alpha Male If you think about it that way, then it does shift things around a little bit because it’s not about her wanting sex. If she’s inspired because she’s around a man that she feels is powerful, she wants sex. Most women want sex and so they are willing to compromise and look for all different avenues even though they are settling. So if you can satisfy that craving and give them the orgasm, then it will inspire them in other ways to be able to express themselves fully when it comes to matters of the bedroom.

Believe it or not, there are guys that run away when the woman really starts to climb into the sheets and wants him in and is touching herself and telling him, “I want you to fuck me in the ass” or something like that. I know lots of guys that can’t handle that much power from their woman, so they shut down. I’ve also talked to women that are being criticized for stuff like that. They don’t feel like it is okay for them to be fully sexual. They are still carrying the shame around the idea that a woman who behaves sexually is inappropriate.

A little bit of what we are trying to do here is to get under their skin without consciously bringing it to their attention. We want to fire off the things inside of them that trigger their desire. So for a man to be asking a woman for sex, he is not a challenge to her. She’s got it. I mean there’s nothing. He is asking. That’s all gone. I talked to guys who do this all the time. They tell a woman that they have just met, “Oh I am going to fuck you.” My response to them is that they have just given it away. If it’s not valuable to you, it’s not going to be valuable to her. Make her work for it. She wants to be with a man that is right on the edge of what she deserves. It’s like the best that she could deserve. People have these feelings of what they deserve and what they don’t deserve, and they are usually wrong because they deserve better but nevertheless that’s the edge you want to be on. She knows she’s got flaws. She’s got a mirror. She listens to herself. She knows what kind of attitude she’s got. She’s not perfect. So if she’s the perfect thing in the world for you, if she’s the best thing in your life, then there got to be something wrong with you. This is kind of what her brain is telling her like “Why is this guy throwing himself at me? I’m flawed. I know I am not perfect.”