What is it that they want? What is it that men want? Clearly if the woman is inspired to have sex, that’s great. As a matter of fact, not everyone can acclaim to this message. As such, I thought that it would be great to explore this topic as I was approached by many women for my perspective and I thought that the time was right to share it.

Emotion is the first aspect of sexuality that we are going to discuss. We will also see how this varies for each gender and what are some telltale signs that you may be ignoring from your mate. It is important to understand the emotional range for men and women. If women are extremely emotional, men usually get caught off guard. The same holds true for men who are not very emotional and the effect that this has on women. The question then is, how do we identify the emotional state of our partner and direct them in a way that may be more constructive?

We take the approach of a facilitator in our emotional response. We ask questions like “How do I facilitate her becoming inspired?”, “How do I facilitate them getting in the mood?” While the emotional range vary between genders, at the end of the day, the goal is to lead the woman so that she will be able to channels her sexual desires. If you want to inspire someone, you need to be in a leadership role as it is from this stand point that you will be able to understand the emotions as well as be in a position to respond.  

I think this is one of the reasons why I believe that a lot of guys get the idea that if a woman is upset or angry, she would not be emotionally available to have sex. Well, this is where you don’t ask her but inspire her to desire you. Guys need comfort. They need a woman to love them. They have a need for someone with these tendencies to be close to them and be soft and tender. For men, this phase is where they have lost their ability to lead. You cannot lead someone when you need them. It really doesn’t work out very well.