It is incumbent in each man to learn what it means to be a man and to learn who they are as a man before they take a woman.
It does not happen by accident
Our culture does nothing to ensure the ascent of boys to manhood. Fraternal hazing is done to boys by boys, traditionally lacking in the assumption of a man’s purpose or sense of identity other than as part of a group. The Military has a similar challenge imposing regiment and order in place of powerful independent thought and personal power. These power systems teach sublimation and domination at best repressing men’s more powerful unconscious drives.
None addresses a man’s need for purpose and contribution to the world. Neither addresses the man’s need to break from his mother.
Feel and act like the man you really are. Whether that means taking a girl home for the night or keeping her interested while you raise your children, you’ll get the skills here that lead you to the mature masculine that she can’t resist!
When it comes to women, the most important thing is to super size the friendship right? Give more gifts, pay for more dinners, and keep her happy no matter what!
RIGHT? Hmmm, WRONG!
Women aren’t sexually attracted to the man who has ideas in his head like I described above. Women want men to be men! They want men who are strong in their identity and not seeking validation from them.
Mommy can’t teach you to live in your balls. If you want to follow some pushy girl around, then this program is not for you. Once you complete this program, you’ll lead yourself with the confidence of knowing yourself in a whole new way. No woman can give you that.
I’ve personally asked a ton of them. I’ve studied with the best in the dating advice business. I’ve personally had the multiple girlfriends, threesomes, and foursomes. I’ve taught women to squirt and how to be orgasmic in the first place. I’ve done what most men fantasize about, and I want men to feel comfortable doing what I’ve done and more if they want to.
I’ve been studying sexuality and relationships most of my life. I wasn’t always good at them even though I knew a lot. When push came to shove, I was NEEDY!
What it took for me to get good with women, good with myself around them, and good being honest about what I want was to come to grips with what women desire most in a man. I had to become a man.
I’m sure you know what it’s like to be in a room when a real man, a man who lives in his balls, who walks his talk in the way that only a true man can. The whole room can feel his presence. People sit in rapt attention when he tells his stories.
Then what happens?
Since he has sexual choice he can walk the room and greet everyone with complete confidence or just kick back and see who is interested in him. Whatever he wants that particular time, he has nothing to prove and no anxiety about women or other men. He has a certain calmness and yet can instantly display boldness and confidence when necessary.
I don’t know what you want out of the time you spend with women. I do know that the qualities of manhood most women are interested in are:
> Charisma, social, sexual power, and charm
> Purpose, having a defined reason and direction to life
> Primal or Animalistic, coming from that primal place that accepts the depth of your woman’s sexuality
Certainty, about who you are in the world and where you are going to invite her to go with you. Whether it’s for an hour or a lifetime, you need to know and express it to her in a compelling way.
These are things a woman can’t teach. Your mom could not have ever taught you this stuff boys don’t learn this from their mother or lover or any woman. In fact, it’s totally up to the man. This is not about how to be a “good boy”. How is a girl or your mother going to help you make the break from dependence on women? Yet, that is exactly what’s needed in order to walk among them as a man?
Be the Man!
Every primitive society that has survived this long. Every one we’ve discovered and studied has a way to bring boys into manhood. Manhood is not assumed. When becoming a man, the boys are separated from their mothers and the women. They are brought into the community of men and there they are put through a trial. Each tribe has it’s own version of this yet all seem to have a common thread. The boys must learn to be men and must cut the apron strings, the cord, with their mothers. They are given a trial of pain and accomplishment to teach their psyche that they are no longer dependent on the women.
A man who has undergone such separation and established himself as a valuable asset in the community and a valuable asset to himself can begin to lead. He can lead himself, and he can lead his woman or women as the case may be; he can lead a family.
Imagine being so together as a man that you aren’t threatened or pulled in by a woman’s emotional juggernauts, by her ups and downs.
Imagine being so together as a man that you can lead your woman to bed whenever you want and have her enjoy it beyond anything else.
*Imagine having choice with women
*Having control sexually, of you and of her
*Knowing the right things to say and the most effective ways to handle her emotional outbursts and challenges to you
This is what you’ve always wanted to perfect isn’t it? Sexual choice and power?
Get this handled and the rest of the things in your live will be easier.
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But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. -Khalil Gibran