With all that said, giving it away is not the best way to approach the situation. Throwing yourself at her does not equate to desire. Now, it’s different if you’re leading her. If you know where you want to go, and you’re leading her there, that’s a whole different story. If you’re not the desired object in her mind, then why should she be the desired object in your mind? So what we’re trying to work on is how to keep yourself elevated to the status of the desired object in her mind. She might also be the desired object in your mind and that’s fine. But if that’s the only thing you desire, then that’s going to be a little bit less than what she probably really wants.

If you understand that she’s got needs and desires and that she is a sexual being, then that means that there’s an organ in her body that is designed for nothing but pleasure. That’s the only reason that it’s there. It’s not going to do anything else. She doesn’t pee through it. And she doesn’t give birth through it. She won’t do anything other than receiving pleasure from it so keep that in mind and live in your balls. I mean if I am aware of my balls when I am talking to a woman, it comes off entirely different than when I am up here in my head and I am trying to do something. I could be saying the same thing, but my body language, my tone, and my posture are going to be very different. It’s going to be much more primitive, much more about the mating aspect than anything else. That awareness in me is going to reflect in everything that I say and do so it’s going to come across differently to her when I am doing it.

Women need a rush of adrenaline from time to time. They need a new experience – something that they have never done before. I highly recommend that you keep an active life and that you bring her along and offer her those opportunities as well. Just be that influential figure in her mind at that moment of adrenaline and that will stay with her. There’s no reason to keep your mouth shut whenever I talk during sex. I mean if I got an opportunity to give her some emotional thrill or some kind of emotional assurance, then I usually take it. I think it’s a valuable way to do it.

Queensland tribe of Africa Going back to the tribe – if you are in a tribe of a hundred and fifty people – there are many things going on at any given time. What the woman is probably worried about is not so much of who the different tribe members might be sleeping with in that given moment, but what’s going to happen to her and her kids if the tiger comes in the village? Are you going to be there to protect her or is she going to be vulnerable? Are you strong enough to protect her? Or are you connected enough so that the tribe is also going to keep you safe? It may not be the affection that a man gets from another woman that causes the woman the problems, but it might be how vulnerable she feels as a result of it. Her feeling weak goes right to the core of who she is, and if she feels vulnerable around you, she’s probably not going to be feeling sexual around you at the same time. That’s not to say that things can’t be patched over and things can’t be worked out but I’m just saying if you can avoid having that in the first place, then you should.